21 Things I’ve Learned In My 21 Years of Singleness…
2 min readNov 24, 2020
By Romanjalee Gunawardana
11/23/2020
- Stop rushing into relationships.
- Don’t give relationship benefits to people you’re not in a relationship with- you’re better than that.
- Lust and love are two very different things.
- He doesn’t value you if he’s hooking up with you. Again, lust doesn’t equal love. (You’re worth more than a late-night text and empty words.)
- Independence is hot.
- Stop normalizing toxic relationship habits; acknowledge it and fix it.
- Running after a man is pathetic- don’t do it.
- Stop entertaining things you don’t want to entertain.
- Age is a number; don’t rush into something because of a false limitation taught by society.
- Lots of men will want you; find the one that will do anything to keep you.
- It’s not your job to raise a man.
- Your mom/mentor is probably right- trust their advice.
- If you’re putting in more effort than them, leave.
- Never beg a man to treat you how you deserve to be treated.
- If you’re confused about whether he wants you or not, I have the answer- he doesn’t. His ‘mixed signals’ are a signal- run.
- Stop dating with no potential. Are you dating to break up? Sounds pretty dumb to me.
- “Men mature later; wait till he’s 25”… Waiting on a man to mature? You’re setting yourself up for failure. If he wants to mature, he will- age is a lame excuse.
- Keep your standards high, and never lower them for anyone.
- DON’T SETTLE. EVER. (Yes, I am yelling at you.)
- Keep God first.
- Finding yourself is one of the most beautiful things you will experience in this lifetime; being comfortable and independent on your own is so important and will ultimately benefit you and your future partner.