21 Things I’ve Learned In My 21 Years of Singleness…

By Romanjalee Gunawardana

11/23/2020

1. Stop rushing into relationships.
2. Don’t give relationship benefits to people you’re not in a relationship with- you’re better than that.
3. Lust and love are two very different things.
4. He doesn’t value you if he’s hooking up with you. Again, lust doesn’t equal love. (You’re worth more than a late-night text and empty words.)
5. Independence is hot.
6. Stop normalizing toxic relationship habits; acknowledge it and fix it.
7. Running after a man is pathetic- don’t do it.
8. Stop entertaining things you don’t want to entertain.
9. Age is a number; don’t rush into something because of a false limitation taught by society.
10. Lots of men will want you; find the one that will do anything to keep you.
11. It’s not your job to raise a man.
12. Your mom/mentor is probably right- trust their advice.
13. If you’re putting in more effort than them, leave.
14. Never beg a man to treat you how you deserve to be treated.
15. If you’re confused about whether he wants you or not, I have the answer- he doesn’t. His ‘mixed signals’ are a signal- run.
16. Stop dating with no potential. Are you dating to break up? Sounds pretty dumb to me.
17. “Men mature later; wait till he’s 25”… Waiting on a man to mature? You’re setting yourself up for failure. If he wants to mature, he will- age is a lame excuse.
18. Keep your standards high, and never lower them for anyone.
19. DON’T SETTLE. EVER. (Yes, I am yelling at you.)
20. Keep God first.
21. Finding yourself is one of the most beautiful things you will experience in this lifetime; being comfortable and independent on your own is so important and will ultimately benefit you and your future partner.